It’s not even noon, and my email box, facebook page, and related social media have presented a host of people and groups, all espousing love as being at the heart of what they are saying and doing. And not surprisingly, some go on to solicit financial contributions, appealing for would-be donors to “support love.”
Well…yes. What else would anyone in their right mind want to support? And if we factor Jesus into the picture, the obvious becomes even more so.
But the moment we make Jesus the portrait and pattern of love, the momentum shifts from the espouser of love to the recipient. Jesus reframes the narrative away from the giver to the receiver. For him, the question is not do we allege to be lovers, the question is do people feel loved by us?
Do children feel loved by their parents?
Do wives feel loved by their husbands?
Do LGBTQ+ people feel loved by Christians–or any others, for that matter?
Do non-whites feel loved by white people?
Do non-Christians feel loved by Christians?
Do co-workers feel loved by their colleagues and employers?
Do the “dreamers,” immigrants, and refugees feel loved by this nation?
Do the poor feel loved by the rich?
Not every context uses the word love to define things. Sometimes the word is ‘respected’….’safe’….‘cared for’….’treated fairly’…. ‘befriended’….’protected’….etc. But love is the word we all like to claim because we know “the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:13). So, every group claims to be loving.
But Jesus does not let us get away with that. For him, the story does not end with what we say. He predicates the reality of love not on those who claim to love, but on those who are the said to be loved. To say, “I love you” means nothing if the other person does not feel loved.
Jesus said, “By their fruits you shall know them” (Matthew 5:16).
Whenever I claim to love someone, Jesus immediately invites that person into the room and says, “Steve claims to love you? Do you feel loved by him?” That’s the moment when allegation become authentic, or dies on the vine. That’s the moment when words become Gospel, or just remain words.
The “Jesus Test” of love is whether the words of our testimony land in the hearts of those we claim to love, or hit the ground in front of them with a deadening thud. The historical principle is this: don’t ask the sender about love, ask the receiver. Until others feel loved by us, we are only using the word love as a salve to cover over reality and make ourselves feel good.
Jesus loved in word, and deed. He told people he loved them, and they felt loved by him. He defines the reality of love for the rest of us.